Monday, September 28, 2009

Sometimes I Just Lose Sight...

Today I am having a hard time remembering why I wanted to go back to school. Sugar Mama has been back in school since we've been back from vacation, in face she and I went back at the same time. The difference is that now we go on the same days, where as last year we went on different days . . . Now I just can't keep up. She takes her lunch to school so I have to remember to make a complete lunch, and a snack, and to bring her bag, with all important papers enclosed. So right now you are thinking "Right, right all the stuff I do too."

Then on Thursdays It's show and tell and I have to remember to remind Sugar Mama to bring something with her, and then in the afternoon it's cheer leading practice. Games on Saturdays, Church on Sundays, and in a different nursery class every Sunday.
Thinking right now . . . "Yeah me too"

Well right now I am also in anatomy lab and lecture and a psychology class. I take anatomy on Mondays and Wednesdays and Psychology online. I have to check my website for assignments, read a chapter everyday for lecture, print out and complete about 30 pages of lab materials, essays, online discussions . . . the list goes on and on.

Today I had a lab practical were we had 26 sections with 2 questions at each section. We had 2 minutes at each section . . . By the end, I was over it, and still had to go pick up the Nugget and Sugar Mama from Mama J's house where she and the Twin were nice enough to keep them while the Hubs slept (he worked last night and didn't get to bed until late this afternoon).

Besides feeling like I can't keep up with all that school and my family requires, I struggle with the guilt of feeling like I don't do enough with my kids . . . I like to try and work with Sugar Mama on her handwriting or sight words recognition, whatever, but the best time is when the Nugget is asleep and this is the best time for me to study. My grades are not reflective of what I think I should be making . . . but they are reflective of the work I have put in, and it's not satisfying.
I'm trying to tell myself that at the end of the day it IS worth it that life will be better once I finish and can have a career . . . and then I think "How will I ever get through the nursing program since I have the nugget?" Worries, Worries, Worries.

Today I am Thankful for:

Breaks: Sometimes it can be so stressful studying for a test, but the feeling of walking through the door and knowing that the next few hours are just mine . . .

Friday, September 25, 2009

We've upgraded to videos...

Here are some videos that we have shot over the past couple of weeks of our girls...

This is the nugget, being very sleepy at the table. (If DFACS rolls up to my house b/c the Nugget is not wearing a shirt I am going to be really angry)




This is Sugar Mama singing a song we have heard on the radio that she really likes "Runaway" by Love and Theft. The actual words are:
I'm gonna pack my bags
And never look back
Run a parallel line with the railroad tracks
Put the pedal to the metal
As the sun goes down
Leave everybody sleeping in this sleepy town tonight
I'll be a runaway...
If you listen she gets most of the words right... and so she should as she makes me sings this chorus all the time!!!




And lastly this is the nugget on the slide at the park... she is particularly proud of herself for her accomplishments..

Monday, September 21, 2009

So Much Water and You Can't Even Drink It...

You may have heard: It's raining here in Georgia. According to all of the news reports it is the worst we have had in 100 years. And seriously it's pretty bad. Just when you think it's going to let up, it's starts all over again. Dooley is officially terrified and won't go out to use the bathroom (sigh), as long as he doesn't use it in the house I'm fine.

On our way home this afternoon we passed many streets that had a lot of standing water, and lots of larger ponds, lakes, etc., in our area that are reaching their maximum capacity as well. But sometimes we get what we ask for. The state of Georgia is in a water war with 2 other states because for as long as I can remember we have been in a drought. We could only water and/or use our outdoor watering facilities on certain day
s during a specified time. We are no longer in a drought... in fact we are in the surplus by probably a foot... we had 12 inches of rain yesterday and 6 today (so far)

No only has this weather affected our yards, creek, lakes, etc., our roads are being shut down faster than we can find alternate routes. Schools are being closed also because the flood waters are just too dangerous. It has been responsible for 6 deaths currently, and that includes a 2 year old boys whose dad was unable to keep the current from sweeping him away. Please remember that family, it chokes me up with tears to think about standing in a rescue situation for over 3 hours, and watching your child be swept away. We asked and the Lord answered... perhaps we can see the light soon.

On a different yet equally scary note, my nanny will have a procedure tomorrow morning to determine if or how fully the arteries in her neck are clogged. The best case scenario is that they will be able to place a stint in her neck. The worse case scenario is that they will close her back up, thin her blood back out and then do a bypass... similar to the heart, but in her neck. She is 70, and under the best of circumstances it will be difficult, but her age is a factor, and so I ask that you just remember her in your prayers. God has had his hand over her this far, I trust he will continue his protection.

Today I am thankful for:

The rain: we've have needed this rain for a long time. And while it has been dangerous and treacherous out there; next summer we won't have to water on separate days.

Love to you all...

For good measure I leave you with this photo.. it's what happens when mommy is sick... they just join me where ever I am....

Sunday, September 20, 2009

Friendships...

I had a long talk with the hubs last night after a particularly irritating exchange with a person I consider a friend. I was at a loss as to what to say to said friend, and sometimes I wonder if it's a personal flaw. See I'm 27 and I don't have many friends... I mean I have plenty of "superficial" friends, one's that I talk to to, but never about anything deep, or turn to when the things in my house are over whelming. This doesn't happen often, for example, after my skull splitting migraine the hubs and I FOUGHT about my having a CT scan... when I mentioned it in front of Mama J and the Twin, they both said they wanted to witness that.. "It would make us seem human". But in the times it does happen, or when I'm pulling my hair out b/c the hubs is out of town and I feel like a single parent, it would be great if I could call up a friend and shout about it.

My relationships with women have never been strong, unless you count the women in my family. As a teenager my friends were girls that I went to school with, and after some boyfriend stealing drama, they faded. In college (the first go round) I was not into making friends.. I was so focused on grades and working to pay my car payment that I didn't take time to form those friendships... the only "friend" I made was a guy.
Which is maybe one of my other problems. My best friend before the hubs was a guy... we had been friends since we were 12, I could always count on him, but after suffering the loss of his mother he went AWOL.. (sigh), I've mentioned him before.. Brandon Parks.. if you know him, tell him I said hi :O)

So this morning as I sat in sermon I listened to my pastor read Matthew 5:5 "Blessed are the Meek, for they shall inherit the earth." Meek does not mean a pushover or constant peace keeper, but as my pastor explained it "A person who considers, makes decisions, and reflects love and compassion to those they don't feel deserve it."
See I was aggravated at my friend b/c I felt they didn't deserve my reaching out.. my phone had not been ringing off the hook, or my mail box full of invites, but what they deserve isn't what I should give. They hadn't reached out, but neither had I. And if I treated them as I want to be treated perhaps our friendship would be better.

I realized this morning that I need to work harder at the "superficial" friendships and maybe they will become deeper. Am I trust worthy enough for people to count on me in a time of need? Do they feel they can come to me when they are angry with their hubs, or upset over a situation at work, etc? I would like to embody these aspects even if the favor is never returned...
Also I would like to start making an effort to have a "Girls night Out" and maybe play dates with friends who have kids... other ways to strengthen those friendships.

How do you keep your friendships strong? Does having a husband and kids make it harder? Do you have girls night?
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Today I am thankful for:

Friends: I do have some very close friends.. Mama J, the Twin, DEFINITELY the Hubs, the Plemons, but I'm also thankful for the friends who aren't so close... I want to get to know all of them a lot better... The Meek shall inherit the earth... and sow deep friendships...

Friday, September 18, 2009

Celebrity..

Normally I don't comment on things going on in the world, but today's a new day..so let us try something new...

Did you watch the Mtv VMA's? If you did or did not, you may know that Kanye West interrupted Taylor Swifts acceptance speech, and the celebrity and civilian worlds are all abuzz.

Here is the thing: I don't like Kanye West. And let me tell you why...

First: He posed for a cover for Rolling Stone with a crown of thorn on his head. I did NOT read the article, because I felt the cover gave me all the information about Kanye that I needed. We are encouraged to embody and project the qualities that Jesus held. There is nothing in this world that we face that amounts even a fraction to the things he did.

Second: He has said he is "The voice of this generation." Let me be clear: I DO NOT WANT HIM SPEAKING FOR ME. His interruption of the speech at the awards was to say "Beyonce had one of the best videos of all time", Really, of all time? You say this at an awards show that is remembering Michael Jackson? What about Thriller? And if dancing around in a black leotard and high heels deserves Best Female Video, then where is my Moon Man? (Just kidding ;O)

The last of the few short reasons I have for not liking Kanye West comes from his actual interruption of Taylor Swift. If you were listening she said just before he came on stage "I can't believe I actually won a VMA, I'm a Country Singer, so I never thought I would." He humiliated her, made a total fool of himself, and made Taylor Swift even bigger than she already was. Confirming to the rest of the world that his ego is far bigger than his talent.

We all have our opinions so if you are an uber Kanye fan, well... sorry for that.

Today I am thankful for:

The world around me.. it's endlessly entertaining, and very seldom actually involves me. I like watching from the side lines and enjoying the silliness.

Thursday, September 17, 2009

The Best Things in Life are Free, or $2.50

No new pictures: So if you look for them, you have my permission to check out here :O)

I had my first anatomy test yesterday. But before that I was down and out with a migraine for about 5 days. Last Wednesday I developed one through the day, and by 4 p.m. I was literally hanging over the toilet wishing my skull would just go ahead and split open. The hubs wouldn't let me go to school (I know that sounds funny), and it was a good call b/c when I came home and slept I still woke up with a residual headache that was enough to make me nauseous. Because I was so tired, and weak I did not study for this test like I should have, although I did a lot of studying when faced with the test I was a little lost. I think I made a B. (sigh)

The same headache that side tracked me in school gave the Hubs a push in a super positive direction. He stepped up in a big way and let me veg out for all of those days. He also prayed and communicated with me about going out of town. He spoke with his bosses and decided to stay at home from now on. This was really huge because in this economy, and with so many electricians out of work, decisions are usually ours to make. This will help me tremendously and my sanity will return shortly. It was a hard and big step for him to make, and I am especially grateful for his thoughtfulness.

This lead me to remember how the best things in life really are free.. coming home to a family who is excited to see me. A husband who considers that his life affects mine too, and 2 kids who grow and show love everyday. Hanging out with these Durrettes make me happy.

You know what else makes me happy... a very nice, bronze curtain rod for $2.50. That's right, I scanned the bar code at least 4 times, and sure enough it was the correct price. The only problem was I picked up the last one... I need 2 more.. but I got one for less that $3.
I'm looking for Home Trends: Shepherds Curtain Rod.. know where I can find one?

So I would like for more people to read livelysituation. Do you have any suggestions?

Lastly I am excited about the upcoming holidays. Christmas time is my FaVoRiTe time of the year.. and fall is football season weather, it's just a perfect storm... it makes me very happy.

Today I am Thankful for:

Speaking up: It's not always easy.. and sometimes it's not the right time, but the hubs made a difficult decision in a difficult time and he chose our family and it's well being over the money he could have made.

Love to you all....

Monday, September 14, 2009

Nugget Durrette

This is my Nugget Durrette.

Almost 3 years ago this September the Hubs and I found out we were having baby number 2.

We had just come back from a family vacation to see Grandma and Grandpa in Las Vegas. This was Sugar Mama's first time visiting and we saw everything there was to see in Vegas. Everyday we came into the hotel room exhausted and fell asleep immediately. However, we had a blast. On our way home we had a stop in Minneapolis Minnesota. I really liked this airport because they had the automatic hand dryers that you put your hands right in and as you pull them back the Dyson dryer dries your hands.. it was weirdly awesome. At this airport I was beyond sick. I was certain it was from the jet lag because we left in the middle of the night and it was early morning in Minnesota, but late morning in my neck of the woods. On the way home I slept and did not give the sickness another thought.

When we got home we slept our way right through to Sunday. We went to church and went to eat lunch with our besties the Plemons'. At the restaurant the Hubs took Sugar Mama to the bathroom. They had been in there a while when he stuck his head out looking super upset. I asked what was wrong, but as I was asking Sugar Mama stepped around him, out of the bathroom, naked. She had pooped EVERYWHERE... the hubs was cleaning her up and trying to clean her clothes. It was hopeless. The Plemons' were right there for us and bought a t-shirt from the place we were eating to wrap around Sugar mama.

Mama Plemons' took me to Eckerds to buy some new panties... they did not have any, but what they did have were pregnancy tests. I was already a week late and I thought that if I could take it secretly the hubs wouldn't be disappointed with me (we had been trying for about 9 months to get pregnant again). So I bought it and went to 2 other stores to buy Sugar Mama what she needed before we headed over to the Plemons' Srs. house. I pulled Sugar mama in the bathroom, put on her fresh clothes and sent her out.

I took the test alone....without telling anyone I was taking it. About 30 seconds later I called the hubs in and showed him what I couldn't say out loud... We were going to have another baby. I distinctly... to this day.. remember looking at Sugar mama playing in the Plemons' backyard thinking how life was about to change for all 3 of us. The hubs and I decided that we would keep this a secret for the first 12 weeks.. that was only about 7 weeks from that point. We didn't keep the secret... I told Mama J about 3 days later.

This pregnancy was a lot easier than Sugar mama's. Immediately from my fist visits I was told that I had to keep regular appointments with a specialists. I did for the first 22 weeks of my pregnancy. After that visit my physician simply said "Christina I don't know what to tell you... I no longer think that your cervix is incompetent, but that maybe you have pre-term labor issues." This was comical because God had taken me this far, and I knew the reason they couldn't find anything wrong with me. So I trudged along.

I made it all the way to 36 weeks and 2 days. On this day Mama J and I went shopping ALL DAY. When we returned home I kept saying that I just did not feel good. I took a bath and at about 8:15 I had my first contraction. From 8:15 to 9:30 I went from contractions every 15 minutes, to every 10 to every 5. At 9:30 as the hubs was getting ready to leave for work I asked him what he thought I should do.. he said "Call the Dr." I did and they had me come in immediately. I was nervous that they were going to keep me and that they wouldn't. I had been hurting for so many weeks, but the Nugget was not full term...

After they checked me in they came in to check my cervix. I told that nurse that if my cervix was not dilated to just walk out without telling me. As she checked me she laughed... "Um you are at a 4"... wow.. what to do now. Well they decided to keep me to see if my contractions would take me to a 5.. in the middle of the night I went to a 5.. and then I stopped. I did nothing else until the next morning. I was sure they would send me home, but the didn't. They kept me and broke my water.

I'll spare you the details.. they were traumatic..here is what you need to know:

Mama J, the Hubs, and I were traumatized.

I screamed out loud during delivery because my mid-wife turned the Nugget in my uterus.. yes it is as painful as it sounds.

She was born that afternoon and weighed 6 lbs. 12 oz. and was 19" long (at 36 weeks, can you imagine what she would have been full term?)

She did go in the NICU, but she came home shortly there after and looking at her picture above can you tell she was there? I share this with you, because someday I hope to share these posts with them. So here is the story of Nugget Durrette

Today I am thankful for:

The story you just read and for Sugar Mama who just came down stairs and said "Mama my brain is telling me that it is thirsty".. what would my life be like without them? BORING, that's what...

Love to you all.

Monday, September 7, 2009

Big Things.. Little Things...


In this family, I may have mentioned that we are big Georgia Bulldog fans.. Here is our little family at a kick off party this weekend...


And here is the cutest neice EVER, M & M rocking her Big Ol' G!!!!



And the newphew.. Bigi.. what a stud!!! Ha his shirt reads "I'm a jelly belly with some jelly fish on it :O)"


Me and Bigi hanging out at the game..



Here is Sugar Mama sleeping and praying for her Dawgs...



Here is the Nugget dreaming about her Dawgs..


We've had a pretty good holiday weekend. We spent time with friends and family at 2 birthday parties and a kick off party. We replaced the television that Dooley broke, and today we bought a new washer and dryer. You probably thinking "Where is the Glory in that?" and normally I would agree, but I am just too excited about it!!!!

The best part of the whole experience was Sugar Mama building a house out of the cardboard box that the dryer came in. She put another piece of cardboard on top for the roof, shaved some styrofoam off and made snow.. and used the small hole as a mail slot. What fun to see her great imagination.

So even though our beloved Dawgs didn't win, we had a great and blessed weekend.

Today I am thankful for:

Blessings: We have been awarded the opportunity to purchase some "luxury" items this weekend, and the glory is all God's. We have what we have merely by his grace and I am so thankful for that.

Love to you all!!!

Thursday, September 3, 2009

New Pictures, New Season... It's on...

As promised here are some new pictures:


Here is the Nugget "fixing my car"


This is Sugar Mama "driving" Mama J's car



Today was Grandparents Day at school.. here is Mama J (left), you know Sugar Mama and the Nugget.. and then my Nanny (the girls call her Gigi) and My Pawpaw (they call him Pops).


Here is Sugar Mama with Mama J at Grandparents Day.




Here is the Nugget with Nanny... they had just finished sharing Munchkins..


Just a quick one of the Nugget swinging at a birthday party...

So this weekend marks the beginning of football season. We love our Dawgs around here.... have you met Dooley our bulldog? We're excited about the start of the season, but we're taking it easy this year. We're a new team with some kinks to work out.. so we won't be caught up in the National Championship hype.. we just want to win a few and have a good season.

GO DAWGS!!!!!

Also it's a holiday weekend. This is the first day off the hubs has had since we returned from vacation and we're excited to spend some time together.. watching the game of course.

Tomorrow we are going to look at new T.V.'s. We received an LG 37" LCD television from the Hubs' parents for Christmas. About 4 months ago Dooley slung his bone into the screen and shattered it. We exercised great restraint.. just barely; expecially when they said that it would cost $200 MORE than the television was worth to fix it... so here's hoping we can find a new one tomorrow. We're looking at buying screen protection so this doesn't happen again.

Any big exciting plans for Labor Day? No? Yeah us either... we have 2 birthday parties to attend, serving in church on Sunday.. and of course supporting our DaWgS.

No matter what your plans I hope everyone has a great and safe weekend/holiday.

Today I am thankful for:

Grandparents: We celebrated grandparents day.. and as Nanny reminded us earlier: "We wouldn't be here with out her"... so true. I am so thankful God saw fit to give me the grandparents he did.. and that my children get to embrace and enjoy their company too. I sure do love that white haired lady, and no haired man. P.S. Grandma and Grandpa, we love you too... hope to see you soon... (Did you get it yet?)